Whether you self-identify as a man, or if you simply have men in your life, this episode will help you better understand what it means to be a “man” in today’s society (and spoiler alert: It includes having real emotions and being able to express them honestly).
I’ll be the first to admit, there’s a lot of baggage that comes with the term “Self-help.” Having spent the last 15+ years immersed in this world – first as a student and now as a coach (but still ALWAYS a student) – I’ve seen the best and worst that the “self-help” industry has to offer.
My conversation with Melissa Costello is centered around the feelings of doubt, confusion, and uncertainty that come with major transitions (imposter syndrome, anyone?). We discuss the tools, habits, strategies, and most importantly the mindsets we can use on ourselves to make sure we’re staying aligned to our values and true to our deeper why’s.
Imposter Syndrome Is Real. No matter how great our accomplishments, we more often focus on the negative. In fact we’re wired that way as a species.
This conversation dares you (and me!) to test your beliefs about who you are and what you do beyond your job. Erica challenges me on my own beliefs about what the success path for creative professionals really looks like and questions whether it can truly be distilled into simple action steps.
While everyone’s circumstances, goals, and definitions of what is meaningful to them will no doubt differ wildly, there is one constant that applies universally:
If you want to fill your life with meaningful moments, you must be willing to set boundaries.
Eddie Hamilton, ACE (Top Gun: Maverick, the last 3 Mission: Impossible films, Kick-Ass 1 & 2, and X-Men: First Class) and I candidly discuss his experience editing Top Gun: Maverick and what drove him to asking for help before it was too late.
Eddie Hamilton, ACE (Top Gun: Maverick, the last 3 Mission: Impossible films, Kick-Ass 1 & 2, and X-Men: First Class) and I talk about his early career choices and how he was able to become one of the top feature editors in the world…without ever going to film school.
I recently woke up from a dream in tears that was so vivid I swore it was real. And in a way, it was…
If you follow me on Facebook or Instagram, then you probably already know that last Friday marked the 20th anniversary of my first day working in Hollywood (technically Santa Monica, but you get the point). When people tell you “it goes by fast” you have no idea how fast until you’ve been here for twenty years and you wake up with a house, a wife, two kids, and a puppy by your side as you write.
In order for me to be in a position to cure your Case of the Mondays, I had to address my own first. Here’s the story…
Given the rapidly devolving chaos in the world right now, a question I’ve pondered repeatedly not just for the last two weeks but frankly the last several years is: “Why is it that we don’t learn from past history?!”
No matter where you live in the world right now, no matter where you stand on the political spectrum, if you have an internet connection…boy has it been a week. To be honest…the last two years has frankly been the longest week ever.
I don’t believe there is any more basic, fundamental, or necessary area of your health to prioritize more than your mental health – especially when your livelihood and your ability to support yourself (and your family) depend on your ability to be creative.
If you struggle with defining what success means to you, and you are often so consumed by your work and running on the empty hamster wheel chasing success that you find yourself burned out, this candid conversation is a must-listen.
